Monday, November 17, 2008

Life's a journey

I was sitting here the morning, watching Immie giggle and be carefree roaming wherever those peg legs would take her. Could our life be any better?...our beautiful girl is soaring, kicking cancers butt, we have each other – an incredible love, a house over our heads, money to cover our bills, Jason’s business is tracking well and we live in a great country.
I know I was a whinge bag last week, and I acknowledge that too is an important part of being a time strapped and emotional cancer parent or even “just” a parent. Though when you boil it all down, it’s not those things that I will remember when I look back on my life, it’s the moments that are etched in my heart, the love I have for my husband and for my children. The moments when Immie grabs me by the face and pushes her face into mine and says “I love you mum”, or the moments when Kody tells me I am the best mum ever and the moments when I catch Jason with the look of awe on his face for what our family and life have become and how lucky we really are.
My sister sent me this email today...how true are these words –
listen up and take them in...for you never know when your journey may be up...
..."...Life is like a train ride...we get on...we ride...we get off..We get back on and ride some more...
There are accidents and there are delays. At certain stops there are surprises.
Some of these will translate into moments of great joy, some will result in profound sorrow.
When we are born and we first board we meet people who we think will be with us for the entire journey. Those people are our parents!
Sadly, this is far from the truth...our parents are with us for as long as we absolutely need them. They too have journeys they must complete. We live on with the memories of their love, affection, friendship, guidance and their ever presence.
There are others who board the train and eventually become very important to us, in turn.
These people are our brothers, sisters, friends and acquaintances whom we will learn to love and cherish.
Some people consider their journey like a jaunty tour. They will just go merrily along.
Others will encounter many upsets, tears, losses on their journey. Others still will linger on to offer a helping hand to anyone in need.
Some people on the train will leave an everlasting impression when they get off. Some will get on and get off the train so quickly they will scarcely leave a sign that they ever travelled with you or ever crossed your path.
We will sometimes be upset that some passengers whom we love will choose to sit in another compartment and leave us to travel on our own. Then again, there's nothing that says we can't seek them out anyway.
Nevertheless, once sought out and found, we may not even be able to sit next to them because that seat may already be taken. That's ok....everyone's journey will be filled with hopes, dreams, challenges, setbacks and goodbyes. We must strive to make the best of it...no matter what.
We must constantly strive to understand our travel companions and look for the best in everyone. Remember that at any moment during our journey, any one of our travel companions can have a weak moment and be in need of our help. We too may hesitate or even trip. Hopefully we can count on someone being there to be supportive and understanding.
The bigger mystery of our journey is that we don't know when our last stop will come.
Neither do we know when our travel companions will make their last stop. Not even those sitting in the seat next to us.
Personally, I know I'll be sad to make my final stop...I'm sure of it! My separation from all those friends and acquaintances I made during the train ride will be painful. Leaving all those I'm close to will be a sad thing. But then again, I'm certain that one day I'll get to the main station only to meet up with everyone else. They'll all be carrying their baggage....most of which they didn't have when they first got on this train.
I'll be glad to see them again. I'll also be glad to have contributed to their baggage and to have enriched their lives, just as much as they will have contributed to my baggage and enriched my life.
We're all on this train ride together. Above all, we should all try to strive to make the ride as pleasant and memorable as we can, right up until we each make the final stop and leave the train for the last time...."...

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